So how long has it been since “the secret” has been revealed?
It’s been a while. And the more I choose the path of my own journey and explore who I really am, the more I feel duped by the secret. Now, for those of you who love the secret, I am not saying that I don’t believe in the law of attraction. That’s not it at all. What I am discovering is that the law of attraction is not “the secret”, at least not for me.
I remember watching “the secret” with my partner. I remember us both thinking how cool it was and how it seemed to make sense according to the laws of the universe. And then we went for it. We tried thinking positive thoughts. We tried thinking only positive thoughts. How awesome would it be if we both could just think positive thoughts? Then we could be rich, then we could be successful, then we could live the dream life we always wanted.
I think our plan of thinking positive and having like attract like worked for about, maybe an hour if we were lucky. We continually tried and continually were found to be frustrated and gave up. Together we gave up. Now, if you can’t get one person to figure something out sustainability that’s one thing, but when two people are intent on sustainability and they can’t coach each other through it, then we are in trouble.
Law of Attraction…?
So unbeknownst to me, even though I dabbled in the secret here and there, I ended up going on my own journey and without meaning to, I bumped into the secret on the way. For me the secret had been with me all along, I just didn’t know how to access it. I didn’t know how to work with it. I didn’t know how to find it…….until that point where I had nothing left to lose, no one else to blame, and felt miserable and cranky most of the time.
My husband described me as “no fun.” And it’s true. I went from a cool chick (dressed uniquely, sang, artistic, creative and full of life) to feeling as if life had been sucked out of me. Although to the outside world no one would have noticed. It was this inner turmoil. This mask I wore on the outside to cover the darkness that was brooding inside. Sometimes I think it may have been postpartum, having three kids each 2 years apart, sometimes stress (running my own business), sometimes giving up my creativity (really who has time with everything else to continue working artistically, the only thing that had saved me in high school).
Last year I really felt like there was no way left to go but up.
My kids deserved a mother who had some life in her, my family deserved the “fun” person I had been before and I deserved everything the world has to offer. So why wasn’t life working the way I wanted it to? I tried thinking positively and brought in exercises to do so, I tried eating healthily and I still do but it wasn’t until I recognized the true “secret”.
The “secret” was nothing I could buy. It had no monetary value. And incorporating it into my life was and still is a process. In fact, in my own way, I had been teaching the principles of the secret to my clients for years, I just didn’t necessarily have the process and the strategy/tool boiled down to one word. It’s also very difficult to use it properly until you have broken down all your resistances or you have someone help you to see things in a different light and you are open to that as well as taking responsibility of everything that happens to you in your life.
So, what is the secret you may be asking? Tell me tell me. The “secret” is “me”. The secret is ourselves. The person we carry around with us every day. We don’t have to go anywhere to find it. The secret is me. The secret is you.
Ok, so now you may be confused and you may even be asking, how in the heck can I use that information?
As I said, I struggled with it for years. My outward needs overpowered – or so I thought – my inward needs. It is much easier to go and buy a new outfit or a book to learn from than it is to believe that the answers we are looking for lie in each and every one of us. The only way we can think positively is if we dig down deep and delve within ourselves. Find out what makes us tick, honestly look at why we are where we are. Search our soul for who we really are.
So is the law of attraction helpful.
Yes, yes it is. But is it the secret? No it is not. This is the secret revisited and that secret is none other than the “me, myself and I“, that we all carry within us.